99% of the women cry. For us, men, it’s a nightmare. First of all, we usually have no idea how to react to those tears: should we leave? Should we stay? Should we try to find out what’s wrong or avoid the topic all together? If we dare to reflect on the situation afterwards, we treat tears as a blackmail. She can get whatever she wants….and the main problem is: she knows that.
So, why do women cry and how to handle those tears:
1. Manipulation technique. Women know that tears throw you off and therefore cry when she wants something that she cannot get otherwise. It’s a pure childish strategy, which works. We fall for it, and that’s why it keeps being used on us. So, as difficult as it sounds – do not react. Explain, logically, why she cannot have what she wants. Then, leave it and show that this strategy will not work on you. The clearer you will show it – the less likely that she will use it again. So, try very hard!
2. Biologically, women feel bad once a month. For some women its easier than for others, but in all cases, it’s not the best time for them. If she cries, the likelihood is that she is in a lot of pain. Be nice to her – bring her tea, put a pillow under her head, sympathise with her.
3. Something went wrong in her life and she is crying. This is a genuine reason why women cry. They are a lot more emotional and therefore a lot of things are a big deal to them. Our natural reaction is to solve the problem. But suggest this too soon, and you will never see the end of those tears. Therefore, first things first, listen. Let her talk. Even if you can see the solution straight away, do not mention it, let her spill everything out. Once she is finished, provide the solutions that will help her resolve the issue. If no such a solution is present, take her side (especially if it comes to disagreements with girlfriends).
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