My past, how much should I tell her?

She will want to know all of it and eventually you should tell her. However, this information is always “threatening”, so choose carefully when and how you present those facts to her.

1. If she asks, tell her about your ex-girlfriends. However, do not tell her how you have felt about them. Keep it to simple facts: how long you went out, what went wrong, how long you have been single afterwards. The more you will tell her about the way you have felt with your ex, the more threatened she will feel, as she will doubt her ability to bring you more happiness.

2. When mentioning ex-girlfriends, do not say bad things about them. Like it or not, women stick together and if you say something bad, the likelihood is – she will be disappointed in you. Once again, present facts – not emotions.

3. The “how many women you have been with?” is always a tricky question. Avoid this question at all times, as it never leads to anything good. Instead, make her understand, that the only woman that matters is her, so your past relationships do not matter.

4. She will want to know about your “guilty stories” – have you ever cheated on a woman, have you ever back stabbed your friends, why have you been a bachelor for so long etc. Although the stories differ, we all have them. Lying is not an option – she will find out. So, tell her the truth. However, be very careful how you present it. Stick to this method: 1) explain the facts from both sides of the story 2) Elaborate on what you have leant from experience 3) Reassure her that this situation will never occur again.